Although I am still on a blogging hiatus for reasons that I will likely blog about later, I couldn’t resist writing about Oprah’s interview with Rihanna last night. Admittedly, I watched it on DVR later since my cousin wanted to watch the Falling Skies season finale airing at the same time. As a result, I was able to see all the angry tweets about Rihanna making excuses for Chris Brown’s abusive ways before I actually watched the interview. Those angry tweets only made me even more curious about what she actually said.
When I finally got a chance to watch the interview, I became angry. My anger wasn’t directed toward Rihanna or even Chris Brown, but on the judgmental people who managed to create their own spin on things instead of actually listening to what Rihanna was saying. For Rihanna, the events that took place in February 2009 were not even in her realm of possibility before they happened. She and Chris had a good albeit passionate relationship, but she did not see any signs that would suggest that he would ever resort to physical violence against her. At the same time, she was well aware that the media would latch onto the story as soon as details became available. She just didn’t want Chris to be portrayed as a monster without being offered the psychological help and support he needed. Unfortunately, she had no say in the matter. I guess that’s the cost of fame.
In the end, I don’t doubt that Chris Brown and Rihanna loved each other. That’s the only way they would be able to maintain the awkward friendship that Rihanna described toward the end of her interview. They had a real bond that ended up being tainted as a result of a moment of stupidity. It’s a sad story, but the reality is that it happens everyday. Truth be told, most people have probably seen similar situations where people maintain some sort of friendship or relationship even after some severe betrayal of trust. Ironically, people have an easy time justifying their own actions under the guise of forgiveness while simultaneously labeling similar actions of others as naive, weak, and unhealthy–especially in the case of celebrities. It’s a definite double standard like that old saying “When I do it, I’m speaking my mind–when you do it, you’re just being rude,” except that it becomes worse depending on the level of prestige associated with one’s role in life. (Ministers experience it on some level within their congregations.)
For now, I am thankful that even when I choose to blog about difficult moments in my life, I am not placed under the kind of microscope that is always focused on people like Chris Brown and Rihanna.
Check out this song Monster by Leah Smith–a local artist from Philly that I sort of know through friends. I think it is especially applicable to this situation because it describes what happens when a person realizes that the monster they are running from is actually within.